“Life’s Messy, Live Happy” by Cy Wakeman — 3 Questions to Find Clarity
“Life’s Messy, Live Happy” by Cy Wakeman - 3 Questions to Find Clarity
In this episode, I dig into Cy Wakeman’s thoughtful questions that help you get into highest self and out of lowest self.
Key Points
Cy writes Three Questions to Find Clarity
1) What do I know for sure?
2) How can I help?
3) What would great look like in this situation?
Often times we tell ourselves stories — extreme stories about our situation that aren’t truly reflective of reality.
Cy’s questions help us toggle from a shame spiral or a negative mindset to a curiosity mindsite.
When you’re being curious and asking questions, you cannot remain in your lowest self. Thoughtful questions always toggle you upward.
Practical Application of the 3 Questions
Write these 3 questions out on a piece of paper, in your planner/journal, or in the notes section of your phone.
Take some time to answer these questions — essentially brain dump (thoughtfully using that curiosity mindset). This can be in bullet points, full sentence form, whatever. Don’t get too picky on the format.
After you’ve written your thoughts, put them away for a bit. I find that overnight or even a few hours for me to step away from the emotional state I was in while writing helps provide additional perspective.
Come back to your thoughts when you’re ready, and see if they still ring true. Do you see any “ego” in your thoughts that you can remove or weed out from what you’ve written?
Once you’ve answered the questions, created some space and time from them, revisited them with humble inquiry, then you can move forward in taking action. Sometimes that’s just sitting and “being” with your answers. Sometimes it means forgiving yourself, forgiving others, taking meaningful action to do what “great looks like,” etc.
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